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Coaching?
Most people can envision
at least one way in which their lives could be better.
What could be better
in your life?
What would it be worth to you to improve the aspect(s) of you
life that could be better? Coaching is a great way to turn your dreams and visions
of a better life into reality.
What's the benefit of talking to a Coach
vs. a Therapist?
Coaching is about healthy people wanting
to improve an area or areas in their lives. Coaching looks at a person's whole
life, their values, and where they are in their life. Coaching is a designed alliance
between coach and client which is set up to honor the client's agenda. The focus
is on the client evolving and manifesting potential. Healing is a side effect.
The emphasis is on the present and the future. It is solution oriented. Coaching
is done on the phone.
[I have never met some of my clients in person and find
that I'm often more effective working with people I've never met. Working by phone
I can hear a lot of subtleties that I miss in person.]
Therapy
is often about people who feel "broken" and are wishing for "fixing".
Therapy
focuses on healing and understanding. The emphasis is on past and present. It
tends to be problem oriented. The agenda in therapy tends to be the therapist's
agenda. Therapy is usually done face to face at the therapist's office.
If
you're suicidal, clinically depressed, have an active mental illness, are addicted,
or are in an abusive relationship, a therapist is your best route.
What's
a "Designed Alliance"?
The client and coach work together to design a
relationship and way of working together that meets the client's needs. The Client
plays an important role in declaring how s/he wants to be coached. The client
works with the coach to create a relationship that fits their working and learning
styles. One that is custom tailored to the communication approach that works best
for them. Clients are in control of the relationship and ultimately of the changes
they make in their lives.
How does relationship coaching work?
The
core assumptions are:
1) You, I and We are naturally creative resourceful
and whole.
2) Co-Active relationship coaching addresses the whole relationship
system: you, me and us, rather than aspect or single events in the relationship.
3) The coaching agenda comes from the client. The client in relationship coaching
is the relationship itself as opposed to the individuals involved, and their respective
agendas.
4) Partners in a relationship create a designed alliance; the coach
creates a designed alliance with that for the sake of creating conscious intentional
relationship. The evolution of relationship is a deliberate and co-active venture.
What kinds of relationships can benefit from coaching?
Relationship
coaching works for any kind of relationship: business partners, business teams,
couples (premarital, married), life partners, parents and adult/teenage children,
adult children and elderly parents, neighbors, siblings...
When are
Individuals or Partnerships not "Coachable"?
When one of the people involved
is an active alcoholic or drug user.
When physical, verbal or emotional abuse
is present.
When one partner is suffering from an active, untreated mental
illness.
When clients are unable to find alignment on desired goals and outcomes.
When there is a power imbalance between partners which compromises one or
more of the clients' abilities to be fully present and expressed in the coaching.
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